A very useful concept I've always had in my mind was the scarcity and the abundance mindset people have. People grow up with these mindsets because that is how we are conditioned. We do not know we are doing it, just like a fish does not know it is in water.
I am no self-help guru or anything, I am a self-help junkie though and I want to say this:
I think that scarcity mentality is one of the main reasons why there's so much violence, hatred and anger in the world.
Watch TV (I noticed it a lot watching Jeremy Kyle), look at your friends, look at yourself!
Which mindset are you mostly operating from?
SCARCITY MENTALITY
- For me to be SUCCESSFUL, others must be UNSUCCESSFUL
- There is not enough to go around
- Seeks revenge
- General negative vibe
- Feels the need to knock others down to raise own status or self-esteem
- Feels good when bad things happen to others
- Always feels like a victim
- Complains a lot
- Seeks value, value sucking, leech
- Thinks people are out to hurt him
- The world is a dark place
- Invests too much energy in others and dependance on others it's only a matter of time before something goes wrong
- Unhealthy competitiveness
- Don't try and trick and manipulate others
- Lives in fear
- Blames others
- Jealousy
- Neediness
- Looks for cheats and quick fixes
- Views himself seperate from everyone else (ego. by the way I'm not saying ego is bad)
- Tries to change the world and others instead of looking in the mirror
- Holds others back
- Keeps scores - I did this for you, so you should do this for me
- Reactive
ABUNDANCE MENTALITY
- Realises that there's plenty to go around
- Generally positive
- Offers value
- Loves people
- Never sees himself as a victim nor lets others treat him like a victim
- Brings others up to his level
- Isn't bothered if someone reacts badly to him because there's always someone else
- Thinks big
- Values things like honesty, integrity and authenticity
- Does things the genuine way, loves the journey
- Learns from mistakes instead of indulging in what went wrong
- Realises he's connected to everyone and we're all part of a whole
- Makes people want to do things instead of forcing them to
- Helps others grow
- Proactive
If you want to move ahead in life and be successful then you're going to be striving for the abundance mentality if you haven't already got it.
Let's say you approach one girl in a bar, it goes well. You get her number, go out a couple of times and it's great. For whatever reason, she flakes on you. You start getting angry and investing all your energy in to her. You may logically argue with her why she owes you or why she is wrong or why she should do this or that. You might even get angry yourself and call her a bitch. Later you see her out another night and she's with another guy. You feel jealousy, you're not even with her but you feel like she's your property or something.
THIS IS WHAT THE SCARCITY MENTALITY DOES.
So what do you do? You made this girl part of your ego structure so you allow her to control how you feel depending on what she does. She gets to see the real you.
"Oh no, my world is crumbling!"
You might end up stalking her, keep phoning her, finding out what she's up to and who she's going with. It's fucking weird. Scarcity makes you want to grab everything you have and keep it all for yourself because your afraid someone will steal it. You grab it so hard that someone ends up stealing it anyway just because you were holding it so tight.
It's like the butterfly in your hand, you love it so you grab it and try to hold it so tightly it ends up dying (or escaping).
Now let's say you have the abundance mentality. You get a girls number, go out a few times, she doesn't answer the first. You're cool with it. She flakes on you, you're cool with it because there's always something else you can do. She tells you to fuck off, you accept it and move on to the next girl.
Maybe I'll be able to better define the abundance mentality when I fully feel I have it. I have work to do and I'm glad I wrote this article, it's 3 am and I am gonna sleep like a log.
Google scarcity and abundance, there's a lot of articles on it and useful information.
Thanks for reading.
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